Blane Ellsworth May 19, 2025
As wedding trends evolve, more couples are choosing intimacy over extravagance. Two of the most beautiful alternatives—elopements and small weddings—offer unique benefits. The key is knowing which aligns with your values, lifestyle, and emotional goals.
What is an Elopement?
Elopements today are intentional and romantic. Think: just the two of you (maybe with a photographer or officiant), a stunning location, and a ceremony that feels deeply personal. There's freedom, spontaneity, and a powerful focus on love.
What is a Small Wedding?
A small wedding, also known as a micro-wedding, involves 10 to 50 guests. You still get the ceremony, dinner, first dance—just on a scale that feels more intimate, connected, and manageable. Perfect for couples who want family and friends present without the overwhelm of a large crowd.
Pros:
Deep intimacy: It’s just the two of you, focused entirely on each other.
Flexible and low stress: Choose your favorite destination and timeline with no guest list stress.
Budget-friendly: No big venue or catering costs.
Cons:
Limited sharing: Family and friends may feel excluded.
Missed traditions: No first dance, no toast from your favorite aunt.
Lack of shared memories with your loved ones.
Pros:
Rich connections: Time to interact with everyone present—really present.
Meaningful celebration: Incorporate tradition and personal touches in equal measure.
Balanced costs: Less than a big wedding, more than an elopement.
Cons:
Guest list stress: It’s hard choosing who makes the cut.
Still needs planning: Vendors, timeline, and seating arrangements are still part of the process.
Slightly more complex logistics compared to an elopement.
Jamie and Alex planned a mountaintop elopement. Just the two of them at sunrise. It felt bold, romantic, and perfectly them—until Jamie’s mom gently asked if she could be part of it. That led to a conversation, and then a pivot.
They chose a 28-guest wedding at a charming mountain inn. The ceremony was held under the pines, and dinner took place under strings of glowing café lights. Jamie later said, “We didn’t just marry each other—we celebrated with the people who built us.”
Ask yourselves:
Do we want privacy, or to share our joy?
Are we willing to manage logistics, or do we want ease?
What’s our real budget—emotionally and financially?
Are there a few people we absolutely cannot leave out?
There is no wrong answer—only the one that aligns with your love story.
Whether you exchange vows on a misty mountain road or under twinkling lights with loved ones all around, the beauty of a small celebration lies in its truth. Let your wedding feel like home.
And when you’re ready to find the perfect venue for either path, SmallWeddings.com is here to help you every step of the way.
